As someone further along, I could be that other widow for you. I am not an expert, or a grief counselor but merely another woman who crawled a similar path. I would be honored to share with you what I learned in one specific dimension of being a widow – how finding meaningful ways to remember your husband and honor his legacy might also help you move forward in your own life and find new purpose as you do so.
When I was newly widowed, I did an online search of ways to remember someone who had died. Most of what I found were products to purchase. Buying something, a once and done proposition, was not going to satisfy my soul longing for a bigger, meaningful, living legacy in my husband’s memory that had a real impact on my life or others’ lives. I wanted to see, experience or create positive change as a result of his death. How could I prove to myself and my children that because I was married to this man, the one I chose and the one who chose me, that I became different and better? Though part of me seriously doubted that I would ever go a day without crying or ever feel anything except crushing grief, I took one small step, in the strength I had at the time, because I knew that he was counting on me not to give up or get mired in lifelong grief. I wanted to make him proud.
Do you long to do this too?